from Ariel
the email wroten from my friend's friend
Ask yourself, "what is it I want right now?" If the answer is genuinely, a stable relationship and family, then pursue it.
If that is just the wish of your family, and perhaps those friends who have decided to take that path themselves. And you feel pressured into taking that path, just to make your family and friends ... resist them.
They cannot live your life for you, and YOU cannot live your life trying to please them, while making yourself unhappy . This is your journey, your path, your life. Only you can choose what is best for it. I know culturally that is difficult. But ultimately you have to live your life in the way you feel is best suited to your character, your desires and needs. We are born to parents.
We are neither their property nor their acolytes. Families should help their children into the world, guide them, unselfishly, when possible. But ultimately they should let them go. Be available if they're needed. But support rather than dictate. Your parents, and even maybe your friends from 'back home' may not have travelled as extensively as you have. They may see the world in a much more restricted way. They may not have had your education, achieved your level of enlightenment. So how might they say what is for you?
