私の幸福～

let's begin with my trip to Brazil in Dec08!! (I know it has been almost a yr til now) > < anyway, I really appreciate my parents gave me the chance to explore in a foreign country!! Erin & I flew from taipei to LA, den to Miami on the same day...  when we arrived at miami, i saw STARBUCKS...hahahaha...but i didnt drink it firstly..only until we had to wait for shuttle bus to come, den i managed to have one!! ^ ^ coz we reached miami in the morning, so we spent our time travelling down to the downtown...we walked walked walked, wanted to find this MIAMI BEACH!!

but failed.. > < so we order a lot of food @ Chilis ha ha!!
so next early moring we took TAM airline to Manus!! service was extremely fantanstic!!! (of coz e fee also ex, ard S$1000+)

and saw this sexy lady when we r waiting at immigration check point~~

after that, we were fetched by a guide to our Da Vinci Hotel
it's considered one of the famous hotel in Manus~ but hotels in manus do not provide water boiler!! we went to the mall nearby, tried to find one...BUT we could only see coffee maker..so we bought a simple coffee maker to save our life!!

Our breakfast buffet @ 7am~~ manus coffee extremely nice..e aroma will stay with u ~~~

OUR MISSION - visit our client's factory...we took a cab n managed to find e way with my poor portuguese ><

AND saw this !!! swimming pool....HAHAHAHA

found our beautiful client - Pris!! she's only 24...women in manus wear high heel to work everyday everywhere!! stunned!!...they r pro~

Let me continue the rest bit by bit ^ ^ (heehee)
more fun later~~~

tHANK you to my dearest sis~~

We were at LL's house (supposely gave her a surprise
but she knew it before we came > <)















This pic a bit siao~ ha ha ha


(more pics r in my album ^ ^)

My dear kaiko ^ ^ (she speaks super fluent EL!!) PRO

Troels is very friendly... ^^

A graduation cake which is bought by our instructor hayat!!

HAHAHA!! MY cert!!

the highest achievement award - won by Johan !! congrat!!


OMG!!
Carnegie course graduation night was so meaningful!!
I am very honoured to be the GA for this class
we are like one big family!!

Susan - who surprised us by coming back after her giving birth
Omar - who is always super 'energized'
Ryan - good luck for ur work in China
Johan - WELL DONE!! HIGHEST achievement award!!
Wendy - who is so enthusiastic and motivating us always
Erwin - who will always surprise us during his presentation
Qiu Zhe - gd job!! u must cherish ur award!! dont lost it again!!
Vinod - a very calm n friendly gentleman
jocelyn - always bring joyfulness to us
phyllis - a very pro n approachable accountant
Elsa - i love ur smile ^ ^
troels - a very nice n knowledgable gentleman
wayne - i love ur "power" full of energy!!
thomas - such a nice husband !!
kaiko - a very friendly n independent girl ^ ^

thank u everyone for giving me such wonderful experience ^^

Sentosa!!
becoz of my dear dear xue..so we went to sentosa tgt ^^
even though i was there for only 2 hrs..
however,
its fun enough tat i wil rmb e moment forever ^^

gd luck xue!!
i will support u forever ever..........

dearest friz ^ ^

HAHAHA I MADE e photoframe for kee !!






ThreeSomes forever rox!!

it's like a long time tat i havnt written anything here...
i dunno why these few days i m feeling very depressed...
i m trying to keep myself looking into brighter side...
i should feel satisfied with wat i hav now...
i hav e one whom i love now...
i am doing wat i always wanna do...

sch
swimming
piano
jap
carnegie

however
are these really the things tat i want???

i m living in my world which looks emptiness... ...

(taken from http://arhsyang.vicp.net/lc2-3.htm)

在感情的世界裡　
如果其中一個人感覺不同了
對另外一個人來說是很殘酷的
一個還在享受著那幸福的味道
而另一個卻已深陷在痛苦之中
我們都認為　愛一個人就是要對他好
對他好的同時　是不是也去考慮到對方要不要這份好？
沒錯　你不能阻止任何一個人　對你好　喜歡你　愛你

當然　你也無法去控制任何一個人
不想對你好了　不再喜歡你了　甚至不再愛你了
如果人人都能明白這個道理　愛就不會生恨 愛永遠是愛

分手的時候　很多當初喜歡對方的原因　都成了分手的理由及藉口
有人說　愛一個人就是愛　說不出原因的
但是通常要求分手時　對方一定要逼你說出一個原因來
等你說出口時　他又會說
”就因為這個原因？　你就要我放棄那麼多年的感情？
我辛苦經營了那麼久　怎能說放就放？”
愛真的可以不求回報嗎？
到底　兩個人在一起是因為不甘心放手
還是因為習慣？　或是因為還相愛著？

分手的時候
哭的那一個　不代表他最傷痛
提分手那個人　也不一定是最狠的那個人
感情分跟合　都是不能強求的

每一段感情　到最後都會變成一種習慣
從欣賞到喜歡　從喜歡到愛　從愛變成習慣　而習慣就成家人
有多少人能習慣這種習慣？　
如果比率很高　就不會有那麼高的離婚率了

有人恐懼婚姻　是因為婚姻暴力太多　
是因為未來的一輩子裡都要對著同一個人
那到底是該感覺幸福？　還是恐懼？
童話故事裡的最後一段
”白雪公主與白馬王子從此過著幸福快樂的生活”　令許多人嚮往婚姻
而當婚姻出現問題　卻又是輕易地把離婚說出口

看到身邊的朋友結婚時　其實很佩服他們的勇氣
很想問他們　為什麼會想嫁給他　為什麼想娶她
可能會得到這樣的答案
因為　我們交往很久了　不娶(嫁)她(他)　好像也說不出理由
因為　他對我很好
因為　我們年紀都到了
因為　我們有小孩了
因為...........有太多的因為.........　
都是不是因為兩個人自己的原因
不是因為父母　就是因為年紀
不是因為小孩　就是因為交往很久了
或許某一方原本並不是那麼想結婚的　
但是輿論的壓力　家庭的壓力　力量實在太大了　於是認命的人結了

不婚主義者會說　婚姻只是一紙合約書　人生就是要追求快樂
但是當你在追求快樂的同時　或許卻會令身邊的人擔心
當兩個人的事　已經不只是兩個人的事時
還能夠只考慮到自己想去追求的快樂嗎？
此時身邊的人不斷在問：
你們交往也有一段時間了，什麼時候結婚啊？
等到結婚之後　又有人問：
你們都結婚幾年了，什麼時候要生啊？
大家不都是狗仔嗎？　我們都不是公眾人物吧！
但是都住在三姑街或六婆巷

人看似幸福的一對　大家都會很”關心”你們的情形
所以大家都沒錯　因為大家會問也是因為關心嘛！
俗話說得好：家家有本難唸的經．清官難斷家務事．
所以人家的事　還是讓人家自己去解決吧
有時兩個人的相處細節　只有兩個人最清楚
任何旁人都沒有辦法介入去瞭解的
”關心的介入”　也只會把事情複雜化而已

(如果你愛一個人，隨遇而安，讓他/她自由的飛，
如果最後他/她還是回到你身邊，那就是命中注定的。)
　

最近在聽戴愛妮的新專輯-天使之翼
有這首歌叫累格,看ㄌ它中文ㄉ解釋,才知道是什麼意思。

累格，英文為lag，原意為落後、延遲、緩慢等意。

一條流動的河流，因為地形或淤積產生漩渦，
是累格。
站在舞台上忽然忘詞了，腦筋一片空白，
是累格。
愛情也是，當兩個人的頻率漸漸不同，
互動慢慢減少溝通開始出現障礙，
愛已經累格。

難道時間久ㄌ,雙方的頻率不同時,
一定會出現累格嗎?
我只覺得不管是什麼關係,都是應該長時間的照顧與關懷,
友誼能長久,也是因為之間的默契,
愛情能長久,也是因為彼此的信任,

有時候,一對情侶相處久了之後,
一個微微的眼神,
就能了解彼此在想什麼,
但同時的,也常常因為太依賴對方,
而忘了最初該給彼此的空間,
愛情還是得互相細心的栽培,
絕不能因為懶惰,而當做藉口,
這樣的愛情是會不長久的,

親愛的朋友們,你們說是吧?

Eeveryday, there are so many people passing by.
Who will know which one will be the one?
No one can answer it.
Only we, ourselves, experience it,
then we will know the one.

美麗的插曲 which I always love to listen.
Always happened to me
Sometimes I did feel exhausted
Am I that bad?
Am I that misfortunate?
I only can encourage myself that
these are just part of my life.
My Life still needs to carry on,
even though I may not able to
deserve the happiness.

I am still who I am
Iris
Shih Pei Ying

Nothing should be able to "crash" me ^^
hahahaha
I think
I am still strong enough to hold the world ^^
I have to believe myself that I can do it ^^
jia you ba!!

有時候真ㄉ想拋開一切
唯一ㄉ遺憾就是不能像同年紀ㄉ女生一樣
想哭就哭
想撒嬌就撒嬌

身上背著包袱
由不得自己做決定
只是覺得為ㄌ爸媽
現在所有ㄉ犧牲都是值得ㄉ

但我也很想要有個肩膀靠
肩膀
是我一直想要ㄉ依靠
讓我累時,靠著
讓我想哭時,靠著
讓我快不行時,靠著

不用任何言語
不用任何動作

一個肩膀
就能夠給我永遠ㄉ支撐
就能夠給我永遠ㄉ幸福

私の幸福はどこ?

By: 何飛鵬

日本7-ELEVEN會長鈴木敏文在他的零售鉅著商賣的原點
（中譯：《零售聖經》）中，
特別指出零售的基本成功秘訣之一是清潔維護，
這是多麼不像道理的道理，可說是一點學問也沒有。
但是這麼普通的常識，
卻是7-ELEVEN成功的關鍵，實在發人深省。

企業經營也有類似的狀況，「準時」是人人都知道的原則，
但是這也是高效率經營與成功關鍵。
每一個公司都有計畫，每個計畫也都會有時間表，
問題是有多少人能精準的按時間表執行？
那一個計畫不是有太多的變數與意外，
最後所有的時間表都只是僅供參考，
而大多數人也都對不「準時」習以為常，
從來也不知道「準時」是高效率與成功經營企業的關鍵。

長期的媒體工作，讓我養成謹守「DEAD LINE」的習慣，
因為刊物要準時與讀者見面，不論發生任何的意外，
都要能被管理與補救，與讀者見面的時間不能延誤。
這個習慣也很自然的被我運用到公司管理上，
剛開始這只是經驗的延續，並不知其中的奧妙，
但長期下來，我確認「準時」是一切經營的基本道理，
也是效率與品質的關鍵。

首先為了「準時」，你就要有能力管理意外與變動，
而要管理意外與變動，就要設定足夠應變的時間，
並進行綿密的管理，並且要事先設定好意外的替代方案。
而如果能提前準備，並綿密管理，當意外不出現時，
你就會有多餘的時間，精雕細琢每一個細緻的工作環結；
當你精雕細琢每一個工作環結與流程時，
消極的你會把錯誤降到最低，
積極的你會把工作的品質提升到最高。
如果這樣，公司的營運一定會較過去大幅提升，
這就是我體會出來的「準時」是一切經營的原點的道理。

沒有學問，人人皆知，
但是很少人真正做到，
這也就回應了企業經營「沒有Magic，只有Basic」的道理。

至於能不能「準時」，做得到做不到「準時」，
這完全不是方法問題，而是態度問題。
只要你把「準時」當做是工作的帝王條款，
不可變動，你就會想盡辦法達到，
而且也一定達得到，因為為了尊重時間表，
一切意外也都可以被管理，當意外也能管理，
就沒有任何不能管理的事了。

主講╱伊能靜

培養一個良好的戀愛體質，首先要放下妳的矜持。
兩個人在街上相撞的時候，一定會先後退一步，看看對方有沒有受傷；
愛情也一樣，當兩個人都想向前時，要先懂得後退一步，看看對方有沒有事，
關心一下對方的感受，這是人自然的反應。


當妳懂得後退一步看看對方，知道去照顧對方，愛情與相處的關係中，
自然可以感受到我愛別人，別人也愛我，這就是一個良好的戀愛體質。
所以要學習一個天長地久的戀愛體質，首先就是要懂得前進與後退。


男女體質大不同
人家常說女生是水做的，男生是木頭做的。
女生可能會為了昨天晚上對方為什麼沒有打電話給我而生氣，
但男生永遠不知道女生為什麼要生氣？
我以前就常常為了這樣的小事鬧脾氣，而我先生也永遠搞不懂我為什麼生氣。
後來他用了一個很好的方式，當他發覺我情緒不佳時，他總會假裝什麼事都沒有，不去影響我，
也不要讓自己受到我的影響，所以我一直覺得男生不見得是心思不細密，
只是不願意和女生的纖細相纏鬥。


當我們覺得男生像一塊木頭一樣，永遠都不懂女生，
但這個木頭卻願意這樣忍受女生的一切，相對的女生也不要用自己的纖細去壓迫對方，
不斷要求對方懂妳，因為我相信就算換了另一個男人也不見得會懂。


男人和女人的體質天生就是不同的，一個是水，纖細到什麼都可以穿透；
而男人就是植物，女人只要用水去灌溉他，他就會長得很好。
所以雖然男女體質大不同，但是不要勉強改變男生的體質，男女就是因為這種不一樣，
所以才可以在一起，才可以相處得很好。



尋找另一半，互補？相同？

我也曾經想過，找一個與我性格相同的男人，有我所不能及之處，給我我所想要的，
但在現實生活中兩個精神上太相近的人反而容易起摩擦；
一個靈魂的伴侶就像徐志摩與陸小曼、羅丹與卡蜜兒，
這些人在精神上互相吸引，也常在精神上互相折磨對方。


我相信愛情是互補的，當我看完一本書，心裡感受得滿滿時，
我先生走過來說：「走！我們去吃飯，打保齡球！」
這樣反而會給我一種很安定的感覺，這就是一種滿足。
而要如何在不同中找出溝通的快樂，就是戀人們的課題。


真正的愛是要包容一個人的不完美及與妳不同的地方，我每次看著我先生很開心得看電視、吃東西，
看著他這樣單純的快樂，感受到他在我愛情的擁抱中活得很安穩，這難道不是一種愛嗎？


我在我們相處中找到一個平衡的方式，要留給對方一點美好的空間，
一個屬於他自己的小小的孤單，相對的也是愛得以延續的方式；
如果妳強要進入對方的空間，剝奪對方人格上的自由，相對的也是妳被禁錮的開始。
愛情的確是一種互補，而在這互補之間有許多的事情需要學習，所以愛情才值得我們去談天長地久。



真愛處方籤

我常覺得在人生路上，如果曾經有過挫敗是非常不得了的事情，
不管妳曾經在愛情路上失敗過多少次，一定要記得自己走過的每一段路，
這將是下一次愛情的動力：因為已經在這裡受過傷，不會再用一樣的方式去愛另一個人。


我的第一份愛情使我受傷很深，但也因此，才使得我今天的愛情可以如此順利。
我第一個男朋友分手時告訴我，我是一個有太多愛的人，我的愛要兩百分才會滿足，
但他只要三十分就夠了，我太多的愛逼得他快要窒息，當時我無法了解，愛不是越多越好嗎？
怎麼會有人覺得愛太多呢？但後來我漸漸了解到，當對方只需要三十分的愛時，妳就只能給他三十分，
把多餘的一百多分放在心中，而不是一下子就把所有的愛都傾倒出來，對方才不會被妳的愛溺死。


愛情的處方籤非常簡單，把妳每次在愛情中受的傷記在心理，
當下次再發生時，要記得不要再犯，帶著自信的態度，去面對下一次的愛情。



如何觀察戀人真面目？

現在的社會變動太快，連對愛情驗證都很快，當妳認識一個人很快的陷入愛情，
妳不停的美化妳的戀人使他成為一個想像，往往到最後卻發現他根本不是妳想要的樣子。

我並不是要妳去發掘對方的缺點，但愛情原本就必須包括對方的一切，
當妳決定要和一個人長久交往，觀察對方與家人如何相處，與朋友如何相處，
他生活的習慣是什麼，從他周圍的人去了解他。


當我第一次看到我先生，我就覺得他這個人很特別，那是在一個後台，
當大家都在交際應酬時，他一個人坐在角落很認真的在看漫畫，當時我覺得很奇怪，
難道不怕別人說他孤僻嗎？但他就是這樣一個人，很認真執著的去做他想做的事情。

還有他與家人相處的方式，每天回家他都會很熱情的問候他母親及九十幾歲的太婆，
那時我在想：如果有一天我變成他的家人，他也會同樣的關心我。
了解一個人要從生活上的細節去觀察，要怎麼觀察呢？那就是時間。
所以當我們發現我們的愛人不是我們想像的時候，也要問問自己，妳的想像是什麼？



幸福，唯有主動追求！

一般東方女性在戀愛上比較被動，在愛情上女人要嘗試改變自己，就算只是一點點，
這是女人對戀愛的投資。就算妳成為人家的妻子，不要就因此成為懶惰被動的女人，
而給其他的人機會。我常告訴自己也向我先生說：
「你不要剝奪我愛美的權利，不要剝奪我成為獨立女性的狀態，
我正在追求我的生命過程，而你是我生命過程中所涵蓋的一個部份。」


大家可能覺得我怎麼那麼厲害，我除了照顧兒子、家人，還拍戲，
而我也兼顧自己的興趣，我繼續在寫書，但我要告訴大家這每一分都不是白得的，
每一個過程中都有很多的犧牲與奉獻，都是很辛苦的，我希望當我回頭的時候，
我可以很自豪的說：「這就是我的一生。」


不管在愛情上主動或被動，最重要的是妳一定要主動完成妳的人生，
而在妳的人生中，有一個人在閃閃發光，妳要掌握住他，
妳也要讓他知道
「我能夠愛你是你的幸福」，
他被妳愛上也是一種幸福。

i thought i have already recovered..
i thought i m able to move forward..

yes i know tat i have forgotten him
and able to make friend with him..
wishing him all e best in his coming exam
and myself able to move on to go for my true love

however, true love for me nw seems too far away
no matter how much i wish to catch it
it wil juz sweep away from me...
my heart has already stopped beating
go for it or run away from it
i wanna have the courage to go for wat i want
but the reality doesnt allow me to do so

wat can i do except for watching it sweeping away??
forget abt it
my heart has already stopped beating
no one can make it beating again
hopeless person
Now, concentrate on my work
then my study

working, resting, playing, sleeping, studying
maybe i had done sth wrong during my past
tats y i have to pay for it
so i better do more charity works frm now on hahahahaha

wish all my friz filling with happinese forever
你們都一定會(也一定要)比我幸福 ^ ^

哈哈!!四朵花


my dear 慈蕙姐姐










omg omg 12 lessons had juz ended!!!!
3 months..not too long not too short yet so memorable!!!
i wont able to forget these days that we have spent tgt
we all have to go for our goal!!
all the best to my friends..
whenever we are, we have to rmb the time tat we spent tgt @ carnegie!!
yeah!!
graduated!! ^__^

P.S some more pics are in my album !!

group photo!!

three sis ^_^

美ㄉ冒泡ㄉ雯雯

super quiet de an an

ohahaha another primary sch gathering!!!
but this time we had almost 10 years nvr seen one another!!
amazing
really amazing
even though only 8 ppl attended, we really enjoyed ourselevs vry much...
there r 5 guys who r juz staying ard my area..haha really amazed!!
we had dinner first then went for singing which i juz went in the afternoon..
then
4 of us went to our park here playing this dic game
haha drank beer this time ^ ^
i then realised how much i can drink beer w/o getting drunk ^ ^
ohahaha
we chatted til 3.30am
then i really got to go back..
we promised tat we r going to hav another outing before i go back ^__^
ohahahaha thanks to all my dear pri sch friz
long long friendship forever!!!

my dear sis called me at 7.50am on tues n told me tat i got in!!
i didnt really feel vry excited abt this posting results,
as nowadays i have been predicting my stuff quite accurately.
hahahahaha
my parents were super excited abt my posting results which
i dont really feel proud of.
my final destination is still quite far away...
i will only satisfy my results til then...
anyway hoping tat i m able to achieve what i want...
step by step
even though i have to take quite a few more yrs to achieve,
i will do my best...
i have to do my best ^ ^

oya i have been here for more than 3 mths alr..
so fast yet so short..
i really cherish the time here
i have learnt a lot a lot of experience which i can nvr learn from textbks
really..truely..
how a company works
how to manage staff
how to handle customers
how to keep in touch with customers
i know this is gonna be my route for my future
i juz wanna gain as much as experience when i still have time for these
However
i will still be doing all these when i go back
i dont wanna waste any of my time from now on
my future is in my hand
no one else can control for me
only MYself can control
i wont waste my time in doing stupid stuff
順其自然
i can nvr force anyone and anything
be urselves ^ ^
jia you to all my dearest friz

xue: fri-tues ^ ^ mon gathering !!!
karen: juz wanna u follow ur heart, nvr regret after u have chosen the route
wei wei: happy 元宵節 ^ ^
ruby: wohahaha gonna meet u later ^ ^ happy belated v day ^^

v day juz past n i realised tat i hav nvr spent my v day
time with any guys before hahahaha (xue--give me five)
i m glad tat karen has really found the one...the only one
i m juz waiting to attend their wedding dinner and be their
children's godmum ^__^
and i promised them tat i will be a super nice godmum
hahaha ^ ^ so u two better hurry up ah

v day--i didnt ask anyone ..neither my friz here
i juz wanna stay alone for tat day
i dont want to lie to myself tat i have to act in front of ppl
i juz wanna some time for myself
As the times passing by, i then also realised tat i hav been staying
in taiwan for 3 months alr
Since 2000, i hav nvr stayed here for so long
but during this special time, i hav spent my time well with
my dearest family !!
thank my parents for giving me the chance to go to SIN
if not, i wil be staying here w/o knowing my future
really...thank them so much tat i juz wanna be their
greatest daughter
so i have to be strong in front of them
i have to be very capable in doing everything in front of them
i cannot cry too much in front of them
i have to take care my sis well in order not to let them worry
BUT sometimes i do feel tiring
i do feel exhausted
i still wanna find someone whom i can juz be my real self in front of
friz of coz..impt
but they hav their life too

i think i m a two sided person
sometimes wanna love
sometimes dun need love
sometimes wanna end my life
sometimes enjoying my life
sometimes wanna be paralysed
sometimes wanna travel ard on my own

dunno why nowadays i will give a smile when i c couples
filling with happiness
i can sense the love ard them
glad tat this world does have happiness and love

every time when i was having carnegie course,
i feel strongly agree abt wat my classmates feel
listening to their stories,
its like watching different types of movies
sometimes i myself feel so real abt the stories
its like i hav really experienced wat they had mentioned
i kept nodding my head
i love this feeling
i then discovered tat ther r actually many ppl like me
who cried very easily (but not in the public)
juz wannt protect ourselves frm getting hurt

sometimes losing hope on myself
sometimes having a lot of hope on myself

a super contrast person
hahaha
who cares

to my dearest friz ^__^
its my honour to know all of u
really..its my greatest honour to be your friend ^ ^

At the gate of Universal Studio






































ohahaha!!! finally finally had our first family overseas trip!!!
first day -- we reached 關西機場at ard 7pm
then we went to our hotel which is authorized by Universal Studio ^^
i love it so much tat i wanna stay for longer days > <
inside the room was so small yet so cute ^ ^
e hotel itself is so convenient for us to buy things any time we want
coz it got 24hrs convenience shops!! and starbucks too

Second day -- we went to our greatest destination - Universal Studio
a lot of pri sch kids came ther for outdoor learning...so gd lor
but one thing i wanna praise them is ther courage!! its super cold but yet they wore shorts n mini skirts
pro pro !!
then we went to play spider ride firstly...amazed!! 5D playing was so amazing!!
ohahaha then followed by various different themes ^ ^
but the most exciting part should be our night advanture!!
My sis n i took subway from our hotel to one of the busiest places in osaka ALONE!!
firstly i was stunned when i looked at the map of subway
it has many different lines
different colours
30 mins trip, we tooke more than an hour to reach our destination
but it was really fun!!
i was able to conquer it!! ohahahaha
oya then we realised tat japan really has a lot of 牛郎
my sis n i were walking on e street then saw this girl was suddenly asked by this handsome young man
she walked super fast then the guy also followed her footsteps
so dangerous...so we walked quickly ^ ^ hahaha

the most memorable experience in this 5 days trip was snowing !!
i have a super long time nvr seen snowing...i only can experience from the pics taken by yilan
but finally!! we ourselves experienced it hahahaha
super extremely cold...my shoes got wet so easily..
hahahahaha
Conclusion!! i love this trip
Osaka!! i must visit u again!!

P.S i bought this latest white Eee Pc which is only 990g ^__^ super nice (hee hee)